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Category Archives: Behavioral Changes
Deep Calling To Deep
When was the last time you felt all alone and defenseless? Can you remember the sensation of fear breathing down your neck or the heaviness weighing in on your heart? What came into your mind? Did you have thoughts of being defeated or was there a glimmer of hope somewhere in the recesses of your mind? Continue reading
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Truth
A good man hates lies; wicked men lie constantly[a] and come to shame.
(Proverbs 13:5) TLB
How many times a day do you find yourself stretching the truth? Twisting the plot? Embellishing the truth? Looking for something to say….anything to say, except the truth?
Usually when things are going well, the wind is blowing through your hair and the light is shining just right on the beautiful field of flowers in the national park where you were relaxing and taking photos….your words are easy, they flow off your tongue in just the right way.
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Relationship VS Performance
Some days it’s just a bit harder to get yourself motivated and in the right frame of mind to get going. Perhaps you are feeling bogged down in a to do list that is way too long, or you just don’t know which item on the list should take priority. Continue reading
Grace
Have you ever met grace? I am not talking about someone named Grace. I am talking about the kind of grace that stops you in your tracks. The kind that hits your heart and causes it to skip a beat. It’s that thing that is given to you at the moment that you are expecting something bad to occur knowing that yes, I deserve this what ever is coming. Except when grace comes, you say, what? Did that really happen? I don’t deserve that!! Continue reading
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Judgements
When we think of judgement, we think of someone presiding over a case. A final decision that will deliver an outcome that decides a fate.
But to judge can mean two things:
- discern – what are the driving forces around the situation and what will bring the best possible outcomes for everyone involved. – Love all equally
- despise – what is wrong with this person, can’t they see how wrong they are – can’t they see that they have brought all this onto themselves? I would never do or be like that. – division and hate.
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Acceptance
The dictionary defines acceptance as: the action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group. – ie. “you must wait for acceptance into the club”.
How many of you have ever been rejected from a group of people? Maybe you didn’t get “selected” for something that you were going for or got cut from the team? How did that make feel? Sad, confused, angry, resentful?? Discouraged, less than, not good enough?
And with all these emotions….. what do we usually do? Generally, we tend to isolate try to gain a perspective that we can live with but not before persecuting ourselves, questioning our value, purpose and place in life.
For some of us, this can be an up and down that we face as a reoccurring scenario and over time, it takes its toll on our self-worth, attitude and outlook on life…but we continue in our search for some place that we will eventually “fit in” and find “acceptance”.
On the other hand, there are some of us that have had a pretty smooth journey through life where we usually got what we went after, we were accepted into clubs or groups and we found a place where we “fit in”. We never had to pick ourselves up from the dust, brush ourselves off and try again. We have the looks and the “Je Ne Sais Quois” (appealing quality) that draws others to us. And in this sense of life, we can sometimes struggle with a compassionate outlook or even be drawn to someone who is not like us.
Maybe there are some of us who have had a situation where we were taken advantage of in some way. We were betrayed by someone or we made a bad decision that led us on course in life that left scars and caused huge walls of self-preservation to be built around us. We have trouble trusting people or letting people get close to us.
Whatever the situation is or has been in your life…….at some point in time you have placed a judgement call on others based upon your case history. This is a common occurrence and dates back even to childhood….we pick up on cues from our parents or people that we are drawn to….I mean we are all born of the flesh.
Think back…how about that time the you were told “I think so and so likes you”, what was your response? Ewwwwww I don’t like him or her……..or “really…..you think so?
What about when you told someone, I really like so and so……what was their response? Oh you are just wasting your time, she or he would never even talk to you…….or maybe,.. yea? What are you going to do about it?
Unfortunately, the world programs us to evaluate people based on culture and we also complicate the matter by our own individual flesh.
The Bible shows us differently.
A great example of God speaking directly to us about judging something or someone based on culture is in Acts chapter 10 and if we pick up at verse 9 we see this:
9 About noon the following day as they were on their journey and approaching the city, Peter went up on the roof to pray. 10 He became hungry and wanted something to eat, and while the meal was being prepared, he fell into a trance. 11 He saw heaven opened and something like a large sheet being let down to earth by its four corners. 12 It contained all kinds of four-footed animals, as well as reptiles and birds. 13 Then a voice told him, “Get up, Peter. Kill and eat.”
14 “Surely not, Lord!” Peter replied. “I have never eaten anything impure or unclean.”
15 The voice spoke to him a second time, “Do not call anything impure that God has made clean.”
16 This happened three times, and immediately the sheet was taken back to heaven.
17 While Peter was wondering about the meaning of the vision, the men sent by Cornelius found out where Simon’s house was and stopped at the gate. 18 They called out, asking if Simon who was known as Peter was staying there.
19 While Peter was still thinking about the vision, the Spirit said to him, “Simon, three[a] men are looking for you. 20 So get up and go downstairs. Do not hesitate to go with them, for I have sent them.”
And when we rejoin the story in verse 25, we find this from Peter:
25 As Peter entered the house, Cornelius met him and fell at his feet in reverence. 26 But Peter made him get up. “Stand up,” he said, “I am only a man myself.”
27 While talking with him, Peter went inside and found a large gathering of people. 28 He said to them: “You are well aware that it is against our law for a Jew to associate with or visit a Gentile. But God has shown me that I should not call anyone impure or unclean.
So clearly God is saying to us that he does not want us to judge.
Today’s examples of calling things unclean would be:
to label someone based upon ethnicity, color of skin, the type of job they have or don’t have, the type of car they drive, if they don’t have a car, where they live, level of attractiveness, physical fitness or form, disabilities, personality, reputation or past history…..you fill in your own blanks….
what is the criteria you use as a basis to speak to someone, be a friend or even to date?
What is the criteria you use to turn away?
What do you consider acceptable or unacceptable?
Do you avoid talking to someone out of fear that they may think or want something more from you?
I think God would label that as pride.
So as Peter did, how do we change our outlook and actions?
In Luke 6:37 we find a biblical view on judging others..
37 “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
Romans 11:14-16 Paul says
14 in the hope that I may somehow arouse my own people to envy and save some of them. 15 For if their rejection brought reconciliation to the world, what will their acceptance be but life from the dead? 16 If the part of the dough offered as first-fruits is holy, then the whole batch is holy; if the root is holy, so are the branches.
This means that if we are Christians, walking in the spirit….then by the spirit we are holy.
We are accepted by the root (Jesus) as a branch(His church) and if we can be deemed to be holy even though we are all different with different backgrounds, history, ethnicity and skin color. Because Jesus accepts us just as we are………
how can we NOT accept everyone as we have been accepted.
I say we accept……..this is our culture statement…….We accept because we are accepted.
Titus 2:11 says,
11 For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people.
He didn’t say some of the people…He said all people…….
If you find yourself setting criteria……I say refer back to Luke 6:37…..judge not and you will not be judged.
As Christians, our culture is based upon the gospel and I would say to anyone reading this, that if you do struggle with acceptance maybe its because you haven’t fully engaged relationally with Jesus.
Once you are fully surrendered and filled with the Holy Spirit then you know what it is like to be forgiven, to be fully accepted with no bias and no conditions and only then can you be in a place to fully accept others…..
Maybe this is an area of bondage for you….. Maybe you struggle with believing in your acceptance by Jesus or of Jesus
If you have any doubts then you are in the right place at the right time reading this… ask God to help you get the assurance, to get the healing and to walk in His freedom.
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Cause For Pause
Today’s cultural environment is wrought with so much negativity, fear and uncertainty that many people are making decisions based upon emotions that are out of control.
Any time you find yourself in a state where fear, worry and irrational thoughts are your motivation you are certain to act out of your normal character. Just like an addicted gambler who has just taken a win will most certainly act out of the adrenalin rush and bet it all, so you too, will take chances, risks and act in a way that can cause you harm.
Self-Preservation
Love the Lord, all his faithful people! The Lord preserves those who are true to him, but the proud he pays back in full. (Psalm 31:23) Miriam Webster’s dictionary defines preservation as: the act, process or result of keeping … Continue reading
Ominous
The Lord watches over you—the Lord is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night. (Psalms 121:5-6) NIV
Looking off in the distance there is a bank of ominous dark clouds that seem to be rolling off the horizon. Directly above them is a pristine blue sky, deep and filled with light. It seems a contradiction that these two can be viewed simultaneously…. And as I am peering out with wonder a thought enters into my mind….is there something ominous on the horizon? Is there a threat to my blue skies? Now this is not the kind of thought that dwells in my optimistic world of half full, but it gets my curious nature swinging into gear. How ready am I for the ominous? Can my world sustain ominous? Continue reading
Discerning Your Next Move
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. (James 1:5) NIV
There’s a grey fog running over the land. It is mysterious as it creeps in layering its vapor and covering everything from view. The tree tops loom above, stretching as if being engulfed would hide everything from their view.
There are times in our lives that we come to a place where the fog is creeping in, where answers to our questions seem out of reach. The recesses of our minds can’t provide the direction and there is a disconnect between which way we should go and why. Continue reading